Loading ...By day singing praises of social media and the latest wonder it is capable of and by night, decrying those who use the power of the same to reach out towards some support and solace. The media, the blogosphere, everyone is at it again. Shellie Ross, aka Twitterer Military_Mom, finds herself the latest victim of a modified witch hunt, wherein she is being pilloried for tweeting about her two year old son’s fatal pool accident.
Shocked gasps must have resonated across cyberspace when, at 11.08 pm on Monday, Ross tweeted “Remembering my million dollar baby”. So of course this makes her fair game as “which mother will calmly sit and type when such a calamity has befallen her?”
What does one do when a loved one passes away? Ring close friends and relatives and pass on the message, who in turn do the same. When my baby cousin passed away suddenly in 2008, my mother and I rang many relatives to pass on the message. In fact, one of the first things we did on receiving the news, apart from falling apart crying, was ring one of my grandma’s closest friends, who lives next door, asking her to go and sit with my inconsolable grandma. Not once did we pause to think: “why are we sitting here with a phone in our hand when such a horrible fate has befallen us?” Because that is what you do – in times of grief, and of course joy, we want our loved ones around us, to comfort us and grieve with us. In order to do so, news must be passed.
In the modern world, where social media gains more and more importance by the day, what is so astounding that Ross tweeted the worst news a mother can hear? Didn’t that tweet cause her friends to rally around and support her in her darkest hour? What is so shocking that despite losing her son, she could sit and type out 140 characters to spell out the disaster of her life? How different is it from picking up a phone, dialing numbers and verbalising the disaster?
Poor Shellie Ross – not only must she come to terms with the loss of her two-year-old, she must first defend herself against people who cannot believe she used the latest technology to let the world know of what is happening in her life. If you can use Twitter or Facebook to tomtom your latest achievement, post photos of your children and even moan your migraine, what is wrong from using it to gain some much-needed support?
Some people should get a life. And leave the grieving ones to their grief.
Originally published in Desicritics.org
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I agree with you. It seems to be the easiest thing to pillory someone for anything, and especially for any form of Internet use:(
Zackly. I mean, we know how much we depend on our groupies for support etc. So I really don’t see what the point is. Poor woman.